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Womb Watching v. Whale Watching


Watching an unborn fetus move and observing it through the pregnant woman’s stomach is a mystical experience. It makes the baby real. Of course, we as men already know that it is real from the doctor appointments we’ve attended, massages we’ve given, and harassment we’ve endured, but actually seeing the skin lurch across the diameter of a woman’s stomach is both a surreal and breathtaking moment. A woman carrying the unborn child may also urgently summon your attention when the baby moves. However, catching a glimpse of that movement is often elusive and proves to be even more evasive when the woman in question is intentionally trying to show you.


For a man, there are very few differences between going whale watching and womb watching. In both cases, there is a high probability that you are going to see something you do not experience everyday. Something spectacular. Something that will make you think about life in a different way. However, if you glance away for even a second, it’s gone. If you look where she points, it pops up somewhere else. If you see it once, it stops surfacing. If you’re not looking, it surfaces and quickly goes doormat when you adjust your gaze. But if you’re minding your business, it emerges right in your face when you’re least expecting it.

If you’re lucky enough to see it, it is impossible to predict its return. If you want to capture it, it is very difficult to photograph. It you want to display it, is nearly impossible to show to others. On occasion, it may disappear for the entire day. But just as frequently, it is a bustling expo of bulges, bumps, and convexities.

Yes, it is truly a moment worth savoring because you never know when it is going to be repeated.  Learn to cherish the visible fetal movements and hold on to these moments as they pass. Very soon these same movements will be happening outside the womb in what was once the solitude of your man lair and they are not nearly as precious when you’re struggling to put the baby to sleep at 2am!


  1. I enjoy reading your blog!!! This article reminded me of a video of Alex’s baby “whaling” times when she did all the stuff described above while John was gone. Now that she is an actual baby, b he refuses to watch it lol.

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